Two evenings a week belong to an orchestra and always will
Posted as tuesdays_thursdays
- Looking for
- somebody who will build around a fixed and slightly absurd commitment
- Experience
- Nine years, both sides, two dynamics, one now a friendship.
- Around
- Croix-Rousse, Lyon
I play in an amateur orchestra. Tuesday and Thursday evenings, most Saturdays from October, and a fortnight in spring when I am effectively unreachable. I have done it for nineteen years and I will be doing it when I am eighty, and it is not negotiable, which I say now because it has twice been treated as negotiable.
Thirty nine, switch, up the hill, nine years in this. What is left after the orchestra is Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Sunday, which is more than most people on this board have, and it is fixed, which is considerably more useful than a larger amount of unpredictable time.
I lead slightly more than I follow and I would like something long and domestic. Rules that run daily, service, a standing evening that does not move, correction that is spoken. I like routine to a degree some people find comic, which is presumably how I have stayed in one orchestra for nineteen years.
I will add that both of my dynamics involved somebody coming to a concert once and then never again, and both times I minded slightly more than I let on. You do not have to be interested. It would be nice if you were not bored in a way you felt obliged to hide.
Not looking for anyone who wants to meet on a Tuesday, ever. Not looking for a person who will suggest I skip a rehearsal, which I will not do. Not looking for anything spontaneous, a word that has never once described me.