I do not want an arrangement, I want a girlfriend who is also this
Posted as partner_not_arrangement
- Looking for
- a relationship first, with the dynamic inside it rather than beside it
- Experience
- Twenty six years, all of it inside two long relationships.
- Around
- Didsbury, Manchester
I have never had a dynamic that was a separate thing from a relationship, and reading this board I have realised that makes me slightly unusual. Twenty six years, two marriages, both of which had all of this in them from early on and neither of which involved any arrangement, contract, title or scheduled evening. It was simply how we were with each other, every day, for years at a time.
Fifty three, Didsbury, dominant, widowed four years ago and ready, finally, to try again.
So I am not offering what most posts here offer. No formal agreement, no review dates, no separate compartment. What I want is a woman to be with. Holidays, her family at Christmas, arguments about the heating, and this running underneath all of it as the ordinary shape of us.
I understand that a lot of people specifically want the compartment, and that they have good reasons. If that is you then I am the wrong man, and I would rather say so in paragraph three than in month three. I am steady, I am not remotely theatrical, and I have been told I am difficult to read until you know me.
Not looking for something that only happens in a bedroom. Not looking for anyone who wants to be collared before they have met my friends. Not looking to be somebody's introduction to this, because I would be a poor teacher and a worse patient one.