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Dominants Salford, Manchester

Dominant woman, chronic pain, and none of that is negotiable

Posted as from_a_chair

Looking for
a submissive who understands that authority does not require standing
Experience
Fifteen years, three dynamics, two of them after I got ill.
Around
Salford, Manchester

On a bad week I use a stick and on a very bad week I do not leave the flat. I have been in constant pain for nine years. None of that has made me less capable of running a dynamic, but it has changed the shape of one, and the people who could not adapt to that made it clear early.

Forty nine, Salford, dominant, fifteen years in and eight of them since the diagnosis. What it means in practice: I do not stand for long. I plan around energy the way other people plan around a diary. I will cancel sometimes, and when I do it is because I have already spent an hour trying to find a way not to.

What has not changed is what I actually want, which is protocol, obedience, and a long steady arrangement with somebody who takes it seriously. Almost none of what interests me requires me to be on my feet. Verbal correction, standards, structure, being answered to properly, and a lot of ordinary time in each other's company.

I am also, usefully, extremely good at planning, because I have had to become good at it. I know what my week can hold three weeks before it happens, and I will tell you rather than cancel on the day.

Not looking for anyone who wants to be a carer, which is a different job and not one I am offering. Not looking for someone who will treat a cancelled evening as a slight. And not looking for a person who needs me to be physically imposing to take me seriously, because that has never been where any of this came from.

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