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Dominants the northern quarter, Manchester

Twenty eight and dominant, which people keep treating as a phase

Posted as too_young_apparently

Looking for
a submissive who is not going to price my age into the negotiation
Experience
Six years, two dynamics, one of them three years long.
Around
the northern quarter, Manchester

The most common reply I get is some version of being told I will understand this properly when I am older. Usually from men twenty years above me, usually within the first four messages, and usually phrased as helpfulness. I have started keeping a mental tally and it is not a small one.

Twenty eight, northern quarter, dominant woman, six years in. That is not a long time and I have never claimed it is. It is also not nothing, and one of those six years was a three year dynamic that ended well and that I still get a message from at Christmas.

What I want is one submissive for something ongoing and reasonably formal. I like structure. I am specific about standards and I am not cruel about failure, because failing honestly at something difficult is the interesting part and punishing it out of existence would be pointless.

I would rather you were experienced. Genuinely. I learn from people who know more than I do and I have no ego about it. What I will not do is hand over the running of the thing because you have been at it longer.

Not looking for anybody who wants to mentor me into what I really am. Not looking for someone who thinks a woman my age must be doing this for attention. Not looking for anything involving money, and the number of people who assume otherwise from my age is genuinely tiresome.

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