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Dominants the city centre, Manchester

Dominant woman offering structure for your actual life, not an evening

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Looking for
somebody who wants to be held to account for the ordinary things
Experience
Ten years, four arrangements, three of them almost entirely non sexual.
Around
the city centre, Manchester

What I am good at is making somebody do the things they have been meaning to do for three years. Not in a bedroom. In their life. The dentist. The savings account. The forty minutes of exercise. The message to the brother they have not spoken to since the funeral. I have done this four times now and it is by a distance the most satisfying thing I do.

Thirty nine, city centre, dominant, ten years in.

How it works in practice: we agree what matters, in detail, at the start. You report to me weekly in a form I set. I am not gentle about excuses and I am not cruel about failure, and there is a real difference between those two that most people only understand after a couple of months. There are consequences and they are proportionate and they are agreed in advance.

Three of the four arrangements I have run had no sexual element whatsoever. One did. I am open to either and it is not the point of this for me. I will want to know actual details of your life, which some people find far more exposing than anything physical, and they are right.

Not looking for someone who wants to be punished into a personality change overnight. Not looking for a person who wants me to set the goals for them, because if you cannot tell me what you want to be different, we have nothing to start from. Not looking for anything requiring daily contact.

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