Back from London after twelve years, and finding this much easier
Posted as came_back_north
- Looking for
- one person for something slow, either way round
- Experience
- Nine years, mostly in a much bigger and colder pool.
- Around
- the northern quarter, Manchester
I did nine years of this in London, where there was always somebody new and never anybody who stayed. I moved back in February for a job and to be nearer my dad, and the difference has surprised me. Fewer people. Considerably more of them still around three months later.
Thirty five, switch, in a flat above the noise in the northern quarter. I lead maybe two thirds of the time and the other third matters to me more than the ratio suggests, which is a thing I only worked out in my thirties.
The downside of a smaller board is exactly what everyone says: I have already worked out that two people I have written to know each other, and one of them knows somebody I went to school with. I have decided I can live with that. Twelve years of endless choice taught me that endless choice is mostly a way of never deciding.
So I am after one person, slowly, either way round, with a proper conversation about which of us is doing what and when. I am happy for that to change over months. I am not happy for it to be renegotiated every time we see each other.
I am sociable, I cook, and I am usually the one who suggests leaving. Not looking for someone who wants me to pick a side permanently. Not looking for anything that only exists at weekends, because my weekends are mostly family at the minute.