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Dominants Didsbury, Manchester

Dominant woman, household arrangement, and nothing financial about it

Posted as no_money_in_it

Looking for
a service submissive for a formal, unpaid, domestic arrangement
Experience
Twenty three years, three service arrangements, the longest of them eight.
Around
Didsbury, Manchester

Every time I post something like this I get two or three replies that are really about money, in one direction or the other, and I want to close that door before it opens. Nothing here involves anybody paying anybody. Not a penny, not a gift, not an arrangement dressed up in another word. If that is what you are after, this is the wrong post and I am not the right woman.

Fifty five, Didsbury, dominant, twenty three years in and three formal service arrangements behind me.

What I want is a household. Someone with standing duties, a proper agreement, a review every few months, and a place in how my week runs. Order, errands, correspondence, driving, the hundred small things that make a busy life work. Done to a standard, corrected when it is not met, and treated as real rather than as a game we play on Saturdays.

The people who have been happiest with me wanted somewhere to belong and something to be good at. It is far more domestic than it is dramatic, and I say that so nobody arrives expecting theatre. You keep your own home, your own friends and your own life, and I would insist on that.

Not looking for anyone with no other commitments, which is a warning sign rather than a convenience. Not looking to live with anybody. Not looking for someone who wants this to be sexual, because for me it is not, and that is settled.

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