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Submissives the city centre, Manchester

Trans woman, submissive, and I would like that to be a footnote

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Looking for
a dominant for whom this is a five minute conversation, not the topic
Experience
Four years, one dynamic of two years, ended amicably.
Around
the city centre, Manchester

I am trans, I am saying so here so that nobody has to find out later, and I would very much like it to be the least interesting thing in this post. It is a five minute conversation. In my last dynamic it took about that long and then we never discussed it again for two years, which is the standard I am setting. Thirty, city centre, submissive, four years in.

What I actually want. Something long. Structure I can feel in an ordinary week rather than only when we are together. A dominant who is specific about expectations and consistent about them, because consistency is the thing I respond to far more than intensity. I like being corrected. I do not like being surprised.

What I am tired of is being somebody's education. I have twice ended up spending a first meeting answering questions that had nothing to do with either of us and everything to do with the other person's curiosity. I am not a resource, and there is plenty written by people who volunteered for that job.

Practical: I work in accounts, I finish at half five, I can host during the week and not at weekends.

Not looking for anyone whose interest starts with the fact of it. Not looking to be asked medical questions by somebody I have known for four days. Not looking for a person who will need to check, twice, whether I am really submissive, which has happened and was tedious both times.

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