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Dominants Salford, Manchester

Dominant man in a flat with paper for walls, so logistics first

Posted as nowhere_to_host

Looking for
a submissive who can host, or the patience to solve this together
Experience
Nine years, three dynamics, all of them logistically awkward.
Around
Salford, Manchester

I cannot host. My flat is small, the walls are decorative rather than structural, and the woman next door works from home and has already had a conversation with me about my television. That is the practical reality and it has ended two things before they started.

Thirty four, Salford, dominant, nine years in. I am putting this first because I have read enough posts on here that begin with philosophy and end, in the last line, with a constraint that changes everything.

What I want is a long dynamic. Structure, standards, ordinary time together, and something that runs for years rather than a series of evenings. I am steady rather than intense. I plan, I do not cancel, and I am extremely reluctant to raise my voice, which some people find disappointing.

The hosting problem can be solved several ways. You may have your own place. Or we do most of it in ways that need no room at all, which suits how I work anyway, since a great deal of what I want is conversation, rules and structure.

Not looking for something occasional. Not looking for a person who will find the practical talk unromantic, because everything good I have had started with exactly this conversation.

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