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Couples Stockport, Manchester

She leads, he serves, and he would like somebody to serve with

Posted as serve_alongside

Looking for
a submissive man who wants a companion in it rather than a rival
Experience
Together ten years, formally structured for six, no third before.
Around
Stockport, Manchester

He asked for this, which is not how these posts usually go, so I am putting it first. After six years of a formal structure between us he told me that the thing he misses is not variety. It is company. Somebody else in the same position, in the same house, who understands it from the inside rather than from a book.

Thirty three and thirty one, Stockport, together ten years. I lead. He does not, and has never wanted to.

So what we are looking for is a second submissive man. Not a replacement, not a competition, and not a hierarchy where one of you is senior and gets to enjoy that. Two people answering to me, doing things together, and getting on with each other independently of me, which I think is the part that will decide whether this works at all.

I am aware that a great deal can go wrong here. I have read enough to know that the usual failure is jealousy nobody admits to until it comes out sideways. So we will move slowly, the two of you will meet each other properly before anything is agreed, and either of them can end it without going through me.

Not looking for someone who wants me to himself. Not looking for a man who would find the other one an obstacle. Not looking for anybody who wants to live here.

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