Open couple with a short list of rules, printed here so nobody guesses
Posted as the_rules_we_have
- Looking for
- one person for either of us, who is comfortable with the terms
- Experience
- Together eight years, open for five, several connections between us.
- Around
- the northern quarter, Manchester
We are going to list our rules rather than describe our personalities, because in five years of doing this the rules are what people actually needed to know and the personalities came across fine on their own.
We each tell the other before anything happens, not afterwards. Neither of us meets anybody at our flat until all three people have met somewhere public. We do not share details we would not say in front of you. Either of us can end anything at any point without a debate, and yes, that has hurt somebody's feelings once and we still would not change it. And nobody becomes a secret.
Thirty four and thirty six, northern quarter, together eight years and open for five. She is a switch, he is submissive, and we are looking separately rather than as a pair. This post is joint because writing two of them felt dishonest.
What we are both after is one ongoing connection each rather than anything occasional. We are quite boring people with quite ordinary jobs.
Not looking for a couple, and not looking for anybody who wants both of us, which is a thing we tried in our second year and were bad at. Not looking for someone who would rather the other one did not exist. Not looking for a person who will find a written list of rules cold, because in our experience it is the people who refuse to write anything down who cause the damage.