Both of us are submissive, which apparently makes us a puzzle
Posted as both_of_us_kneel
- Looking for
- one experienced dominant willing to take on two people at once
- Experience
- Nine years married, both experienced separately, nothing together yet.
- Around
- South Beach, Miami
We met in a dynamic that neither of us was leading and we have been married nine years. In that time we have found exactly one dominant willing to consider two of us, and she moved to another state four months into the conversation. Everybody else has treated the request as a maths problem they did not want to solve.
Thirty four and thirty six, South Beach, both of us with our own experience from before we met and none at all as a pair.
We understand why it is a big ask. It is twice the attention, twice the reading of two different people, and a real risk that one of us quietly becomes the main one and the other becomes furniture. That last part is the thing we worry about and we would want it named out loud early rather than discovered in month six.
What we are hoping for is something regular and structured rather than occasional. We would both be happy for some of it to be separate. Neither of us needs to be in the room every time and we have talked about that at length.
Not looking for anybody who wants to use one of us to get to the other, which has happened twice. Not looking for someone who is curious about how a marriage like ours works and not much beyond that. And we are aware that we may be advertising for a person who does not exist, in which case we will have had a nice evening writing this.