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Switches Brickell, Miami

Everyone I knew here has moved away in two years

Posted as everyone_i_knew_left

Looking for
friendship in this first, and honestly that alone would do
Experience
Ten years, both sides, and a suddenly empty calendar.
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Brickell, Miami

In the space of about two years my entire circle here dissolved. Two couples went north when the rent doubled, my closest friend went back to Chicago, and the person I had done all of this with for six years moved to Atlanta in the spring. I am not in any crisis. I just looked up in June and realized I had nobody left to call.

Thirty six, Brickell, switch, ten years in.

So this post is mostly asking for people rather than a partner, and I have decided to be honest about that rather than dress it up as something more conventional.

What I miss is not primarily the kink. It is having somebody to talk to who does not need the preamble. Ten years of context, gone, and the prospect of explaining myself from the beginning to somebody new is genuinely exhausting.

If a dynamic came out of it, I would be glad, and I go both ways with a slight preference for following these days. But I would be equally happy with two or three people to have dinner with who understand this part of my life.

I am aware that a personals board is an odd place to advertise for friends. I have thought about where else somebody like me would go and I do not have a better answer.

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