No photographs before we have met, and please do not ask twice
Posted as no_photographs_first
- Looking for
- a submissive who can hold a conversation without pictures in it
- Experience
- Twelve years, three dynamics, all begun in person.
- Around
- Coral Gables, Miami
I do not send photographs and I do not ask for them. Not of faces, not of anything else. If we get as far as meeting, you will see me, and that has always seemed to me the sensible order to do it in.
Thirty eight, Coral Gables, dominant, twelve years in.
There are two reasons. The dull one is that things sent to strangers do not come back, and I have watched a friend spend a bad year over exactly that. The interesting one is that in twelve years the correlation between a photograph and whether somebody and I actually work has been precisely zero, while the correlation with how they write about their own limits has been enormous.
What I want to know before meeting is how you talk about the last time something went wrong. What you do when you are overwhelmed. Whether you can say no to me in a message. That tells me everything a picture does not.
What I am looking for is an ongoing dynamic, weekly, with a person who has their own life and wants a structured part of it to belong to somebody else.
If the absence of pictures is a dealbreaker, that is fine and it is common. But please do not ask a second time after I have explained. Three people have, and all three heard the same answer and then argued with it, which told me more than a photograph would have.