I do not meet anyone the same night, and here is why
Posted as not_the_same_night
- Looking for
- a submissive who is comfortable with a week between messages and meeting
- Experience
- Fourteen years, four dynamics, all of them slow to start.
- Around
- Brickell, Miami
About one message in three I receive suggests meeting tonight. Not this week. Tonight. I understand why this city works that way and I am not sneering at anybody who likes it, but I have a rule and I am going to explain it once here so I do not have to explain it fifteen more times.
Forty, Brickell, dominant, fourteen years in.
The rule is a week. Between the first message and any meeting there is at least a week, and inside that week we talk properly about what each of us wants and does not want. Not because I am precious about it. Because I have been responsible for other people in a room and I am not willing to do that on the basis of two hours of enthusiasm and a photograph.
What I have found is that the week does the sorting for me. The people who cannot tolerate it were, without exception, people who would have been difficult about something else later.
What I want after that week is something ongoing and unhurried, with structure that lives between meetings, and a person who has a full life of their own that this fits inside.
If a week feels like an eternity, this city has plenty of people who will meet you tonight, and I mean that without any sarcasm at all.