Nothing that shows, ever, and that is a working condition
Posted as nothing_that_shows
- Looking for
- a dominant who can build something inside a fairly narrow set of limits
- Experience
- Seven years, two dynamics, both with people who understood the rule.
- Around
- Wynwood, Miami
I perform for a living, which means my skin is part of how I earn, and there is a costume fitting most weeks where three people look at all of it under a hard light. So nothing marks. Not faintly, not somewhere covered, not just this once because the season is nearly over. It is the first thing I say and it has ended more conversations than anything else about me.
Thirty, Wynwood, submissive, seven years in with two dynamics behind me that both worked precisely because the limit was settled in week one.
What people miss is how much is left. I want structure, rules I carry through the day, someone whose expectations follow me into a rehearsal room where nobody knows anything about my life. The dynamic I had for four years was built almost entirely out of instructions and reporting back, and it was the most consistent thing in a decade of very inconsistent employment.
My hours are strange in the ordinary way that performers' hours are strange. I am busy at night, free at odd points in the afternoon, and occasionally away for three weeks with no notice worth speaking of.
I am not fragile about the limit and I do not want it treated as a problem to be creatively worked around, which two people have proposed as though I had not thought about it myself. And I am not interested in anybody who finds what I do glamorous. It is a job with a bad knee in it.