My family lives two streets away, so discretion is the whole plan
Posted as two_streets_away
- Looking for
- a dominant who will never need to be introduced to anybody
- Experience
- Ten years, three dynamics, none of them ever spoken about.
- Around
- Coral Gables, Miami
My mother is two streets away, my aunt is four, and my cousins are scattered across the same handful of blocks. Sunday lunch has about fourteen people at it and every one of them would have an opinion. This is a wonderful way to live and it makes everything about this part of my life complicated.
Forty one, Coral Gables, submissive, ten years in, and not one person in my family has any idea.
What that means practically. I do not host. I am not going to be seen anywhere near my own neighborhood. I will not be added to anything, tagged in anything, or photographed. I am free on weekday evenings and almost never on a Sunday, and if there is a birthday, a christening or a funeral, I am at it and everything else moves.
None of this is shame. I am forty one and I have made my peace with what I want. It is that I am close to these people and I have decided the cost of telling them is higher than the cost of being careful, and I have no interest in relitigating that decision with a stranger.
What I want is a long, quiet dynamic with somebody who finds all of the above unremarkable. If it sounds like too much management, I understand, and I would rather hear that now.