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Switches Coral Gables, Miami

Trans woman, switch, and I would like this to be unremarkable

Posted as unremarkable_please

Looking for
somebody for whom none of this needs to be a conversation
Experience
Seven years, both sides, and considerable patience.
Around
Coral Gables, Miami

I would like to write a personals post that is about what I want and not about what I am, and I have discovered over seven years that this is not really available to me, so here is one paragraph and then I would like to move on.

Thirty four, Coral Gables, trans woman, switch, out for nine years, seven of them doing this. I am not a novelty, an education, or a question you have been meaning to ask somebody.

Now the actual post. I want an ongoing dynamic with structure in it. I lead a little more often than I follow and I want both eventually with the same person. I work in a laboratory, my hours are strict, and I am free most evenings after six and all weekend. I am precise, quiet, and much warmer once I know somebody than I sound here.

What I care about most is somebody who is careful about their word. If you say Thursday, mean Thursday. If you say something is a limit, hold it. In seven years the people who were unreliable about small promises were unreliable about large ones.

If you are writing because of the first paragraph rather than the second, please do not. I can tell within two messages, and so, I suspect, can everybody else who has to write a paragraph like it.

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