We host, but only between November and April
Posted as we_host_in_winter
- Looking for
- other couples for dinner first and whatever follows from that
- Experience
- Twenty two years together, fifteen with this at home.
- Around
- Coral Gables, Miami
We have a house with a garden that is glorious for five months of the year and unusable for the other seven, and we have organized our entire social life around that fact. From November to April we have people over constantly. From June we more or less hibernate with the air conditioning on.
Fifty three and fifty six, Coral Gables, together twenty two years, with this in our marriage for fifteen of them.
What we are looking for is other couples to know properly. We have almost no friends who share this part of our life, and after fifteen years of it being a private thing between the two of us, we have both started to feel the strangeness of that.
The offer is dinner, in the winter, at our house, with people who understand. We are good hosts and we like feeding people. What happens after several of those evenings is entirely open and not something we would want to decide in advance.
He leads in our house. I do not, and I am not quietly hoping to. That has been settled for fifteen years and it is not a subject for exploration by anybody else.
We are posting in June because it takes months to get to know people and we would like to have somebody to invite when the weather turns. We are not looking for a third, and we are not looking for anyone who wants to arrange something for next Friday.