I speak English at work all day, so writing here costs me nothing
Posted as foreign_colleagues
- Looking for
- a submissive man who can be direct without being coached into it
- Experience
- Seven years, two dynamics, both of them ended by my own moving about.
- Around
- inside the ring road, Moscow
Everybody here has worked out that an English board is a small door that most of the people you know will never walk through. Fine, and true. But there is a second thing about it that nobody mentions, which is that writing in a borrowed language makes almost everyone plainer than they would otherwise be, and I like the board better for it.
Thirty three, dominant woman, inside the ring road, seven years in. I run a small team on a project with people in four countries and I have not had a working conversation in my own language since March.
What I want is a submissive man who is direct without needing to be dragged there. I have spent two years being written to by men who spend six messages establishing a mood and never once say a plain sentence about what they actually want. I am not going to guess, and I have stopped finding the guessing charming.
The shape of it: ongoing, structured, an evening or two a week and a lot of expectation in between. I am precise, I keep lists, I notice when things slip, and I am considerably warmer than any of that sounds.
I travel for work about a week a month and I am honest about it up front. Not looking for a man who is looking for a mother. Not looking for someone who wants to be told what he wants. Not looking to correct anybody's English, ever, and if yours is rough, write anyway, because so is everybody's and it has never mattered once.