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Dominants the north, Moscow

Four words and a question mark is not a message

Posted as first_message_problem

Looking for
one paragraph, from somebody who read the post
Experience
Nine years, two dynamics, one of them still a friendship.
Around
the north, Moscow

I am going to be rude for one paragraph and then I will behave. In the last two months I have had nineteen messages. Fourteen were under ten words. Six of those were a single greeting. Two people asked me a question I had already answered in the second line of my previous post. One person wrote a genuinely lovely three paragraphs and then never replied to my answer, which I think about more than I should.

Thirty nine, dominant woman, the north, nine years in. I understand this board is slow and I have no complaint about that. Slow is fine. Slow suits me. What I object to is the idea that because it is slow, effort is wasted, so nobody makes any, so it gets slower. That is a circle and somebody has to step out of it.

What I want: a submissive man, thirty five or over, for something ongoing and domestic rather than occasional and theatrical. Service, standing rules, one fixed evening and a lot of contact in between. I am not interested in anything that requires equipment.

I am warm once we are past this and I am told I am funny, which I have decided to believe. Not looking for anybody who wants a mistress in the professional sense, since there is none of that here and never will be. Not looking for a man who calls every woman on this board the same thing in the same message. Not looking for somebody who cannot be bothered with a paragraph now and will somehow be diligent in October.

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