Everyone I met in this came through a friend, and that has run out
Posted as introduced_once
- Looking for
- a submissive who understands why a stranger writing coldly is nervous
- Experience
- Fourteen years, four dynamics, every one of them through somebody I trusted.
- Around
- the centre, Moscow
I have never posted anything like this in my life. Every partner I have had in fourteen years arrived the same way: a friend said, I know somebody, and then vouched for both of us, and the whole thing began with a floor under it. That is how it is done here and I never had reason to question it.
Then two of those friends left the country, one married somebody who does not know about any of this, and the circle that had been doing my introductions for a decade quietly stopped existing. I spent last winter realising that at forty two I have a great deal of experience and no route to anybody new.
So, cold, in writing, which feels absurd. Forty two, dominant, the centre, fourteen years. I lead in a domestic and undramatic way: standing expectations, an evening a week that does not move, and a general assumption that I decide the things we have agreed I decide.
What I would like is one submissive woman for something long. I am slow. I will want to meet somewhere public more than once before anything else, and I would rather that took two months than two weeks.
The one advantage of having come up through introductions is that I learned this among people who took it seriously and would have told me flatly if I were getting it wrong. Not looking for someone who wants to move fast to prove something. Not looking to be anybody's first experience of this.