Two evenings a week, reliably, for as many years as it works
Posted as two_evenings_a_week
- Looking for
- a submissive man who prefers consistency to intensity
- Experience
- Thirteen years, three dynamics, all of them built on a fixed schedule.
- Around
- the south west, Moscow
Tuesday and Saturday. Not sometimes Tuesday, not Tuesday unless something comes up. Those two evenings have been the frame of every arrangement I have had and they are why all three of them lasted years rather than months.
Forty one, dominant woman, the south west. I design buildings, which is to say I spend my working life on things that will still be standing in forty years and I have absolutely brought that habit home with me. I am not interested in a memorable evening. I am interested in the two hundredth Tuesday.
What I offer is entirely predictable and I think that is the appeal. A standing evening, expectations that hold in between, written rules that we review every few months and change on purpose rather than by drift, and a dominant who will be exactly the same person in March as in October.
What I want in return is somebody who finds that steadying rather than dull. In my experience the men who want intensity are gone by the fifth week, and the ones who want a structure they can rely on are still here years later. I would rather skip the first kind entirely. I lead in a fairly formal register and I am not much given to raising my voice, and both of those things surprise people. Not looking for anybody whose availability depends on their mood. Not looking to be contacted at other times unless something has gone wrong, and I do mean that kindly. Not looking for a man who wants to renegotiate the schedule in month two, because the schedule is the thing.