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Submissives the centre, Moscow

I opened an account last September and this is my first sentence on it

Posted as read_for_a_year

Looking for
a long dynamic with someone who is also in no hurry
Experience
Four years of knowing it. One dynamic, seven months, ended when he left.
Around
the centre, Moscow

Eight months of reading other people's posts twice a week, the way you read a newspaper you have no intention of writing to. I could probably tell you which of the regulars here have changed their wording and which have not. That is an embarrassing thing to admit and I am admitting it anyway, because it explains the tone of the rest of this.

Thirty four, submissive, translation work for a company that would be very unhappy to know about any of this, living alone in the centre, which is the only real luxury I have.

What I learned from eight months of reading is that the slow posts are the ones still being answered in the spring. Three sentences and a demand goes nowhere here. The people who described an ordinary Tuesday, or a limit and why it is one, or something they had got badly wrong, were still around months later having conversations.

So: a long dynamic, with rules that reach into ordinary days rather than into occasional evenings. I want to be accountable to somebody about small consistent things and corrected in a way that is not performance. Meetings on their own do nothing for me.

I will ask a great many questions before I agree to be in a room with you, and if that reads as coldness it is not. Not looking for photographs before a conversation. Not looking for a dominant who is currently running four of these and would like a fifth.

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