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Submissives the centre, Moscow

I will not send a photograph to a stranger, and that is not paranoia

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Looking for
two paragraphs from you before anything else is discussed
Experience
Ten years, four dynamics, and a very short temper about first messages.
Around
the centre, Moscow

This city is enormous and the number of people in it doing this seriously is not. Any picture of my face is an identification, and it stops being mine the second it leaves my hands. I have watched that go wrong for two women I know and I am not interested in being the third.

Thirty six, submissive, the centre, ten years in. Four dynamics, two of them long. I am not new, I am not nervous, and I am not going to be persuaded out of this by anybody explaining how the internet works.

What I would like instead is writing. Tell me what a good month with you actually contains, hour by hour if you like. Tell me what ended the last one and what your part in it was. Two paragraphs and I will know far more than any photograph could tell me, and if you cannot produce two paragraphs about yourself then we would have nothing to talk about in a room either.

I am aware I sound severe. I am, in writing. In person I am reportedly much easier company, and I am prepared to accept that this is my problem to fix rather than yours.

What I want is a dominant who is genuinely interested in a person rather than in a type. Ongoing, private, unhurried, with real authority in it and no audience. Not looking for anybody who opens with a demand. Not looking for anyone who has sent the same message to nine people this week. Not looking to be told I am difficult, since I already know and I have made my peace with it.

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