One of us is away three weeks in four, so read the calendar first
Posted as three_weeks_in_four
- Looking for
- people who plan a long way ahead and do not mind waiting
- Experience
- Nine years together, six with this, two friendships that survived the travel.
- Around
- the centre, Moscow
He is away three weeks out of four, has been for six years, and will be for several more. That single fact has ended more of our attempts at knowing anybody than anything about what we want ever has, so we are putting it at the top rather than at the bottom.
Thirty six and thirty eight, in the centre, together nine years, married four. Six years of this between us, entirely private, with two friendships from it that have lasted because both of those couples were patient people.
What this means practically: we can plan things four to six weeks out and we can almost never do anything at short notice. The good news, and it is genuinely good, is that when he is home the week is completely ours, because he has no commute and no office to be at and we have deliberately kept our lives thin.
What we are looking for is another couple to know slowly. Friendship as the first goal and the only one we would guarantee. If it became more over a long time and all four people wanted it, so much the better.
She leads in our house, quietly, and he prefers it that way and would say so himself if he were not on a plane. Not looking for anything spontaneous. Not looking for a third, which we have discussed and settled. Not looking for people who will be enthusiastic in September and stop replying by the time we are actually free in October, which has now happened to us twice.