Fifty eight, switch, and interested only in something that lasts
Posted as long_game_t
- Looking for
- a partner for years rather than a partner for a season
- Experience
- Thirty years, two long partnerships, both with switching in them.
- Around
- Jersey side, New York
I have had two partnerships in this that lasted, one of fourteen years and one of nine, and both of them switched. That is what I know how to do and it is the only thing I am looking for now.
Fifty eight, Jersey side, within an hour of most of the city if I plan it properly. I am not interested in anything short. Not because I disapprove of it, but because I am past the age where I have the appetite to start something I already know will end in the spring. My time is finite in a way it was not at forty, and I have become quite ruthless about how I spend it.
What a good version of this looks like to me: two people who see each other several times a week, who lead and follow in turn without either of them keeping score, and who have enough separate life that the reunion is always interesting.
I am in decent health, I am retired from one career and doing a second one part time, and my house is my own.
Not looking to see several people at once. Not looking for anything that lives on a screen. Not looking for someone who wants to try switching to find out whether they like it, because I have been the laboratory once and it cost me a year I would rather like back.