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Dominants the Bronx, New York

Nurse, dominant, functionally nocturnal, mildly feral by Friday

Posted as night_shift_dom

Looking for
someone who can hold structure without hourly supervision
Experience
Ten years, two long dynamics, both fitted around a rota.
Around
the Bronx, New York

I do three twelves a week and I am dead to the world for most of the day after the last one. My friends have given up inviting me to anything before four in the afternoon. My plants are on a timer. I am doing fine.

Thirty five, the Bronx, dominant, ten years in.

What I have learned about running a dynamic on a rota is that it works beautifully if the other person can hold a structure without constant supervision, and falls apart immediately if they cannot. So that is my actual requirement. I want a submissive who can be given a set of standing expectations and keep to them across four days while I am barely conscious, and who will tell me honestly afterwards how it went, including the parts that went badly.

In return I am genuinely attentive when I am awake, I am extremely hard to shock, and I have spent a decade watching people be brave in bad situations, so I have a good eye for when somebody says they are fine and is not.

Not looking for someone who needs a reply within the hour. Not looking for anyone who wants a dominant to be their entire calendar. And not looking to hear about your back pain in the first message, which has now happened twice, and I am not on shift here.

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