I make decisions all day. I would like to make none in the evening
Posted as october_cardigan
- Looking for
- a structured service dynamic with no impact play at all
- Experience
- Five years, mostly service, one arrangement that ran three of them.
- Around
- Manhattan, New York
I run a team of thirty one people. Every day is a queue of decisions that other adults could make themselves and have chosen to bring to me instead. By seven in the evening I am not tired in my body. I am tired in the part of me that chooses things.
That is the whole of my interest here. I want to hand the choosing over to someone competent, inside clear limits, for a defined stretch of time, and to be told what is happening about dinner.
Thirty three, Manhattan, submissive, five years in. I am formal in writing and considerably less formal in person, and I am told the gap is disconcerting.
I want service, protocol, standing rules, and correction that is verbal rather than physical. I do not want impact of any kind. That is not squeamishness and it is not something to be worked around gradually. It is a limit, it has been a limit for five years, and every dynamic I have had has worked perfectly well without it.
I would like someone older than me, or at least someone with more experience, capable of running a dynamic like an adult arrangement rather than a performance. If you need to be addressed by a title in a text message at eleven in the morning while I am chairing a meeting, we are not a match, and I would rather establish that in the first exchange than the fifth.