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Submissives Jersey side, New York

Submissive man, alternate weeks free, extremely boring about logistics

Posted as weeknight_quiet

Looking for
a dominant who reads a calendar without sighing
Experience
Eight years, one four year dynamic, ended amicably.
Around
Jersey side, New York

My kids are with me every other week. On those weeks I am unavailable, full stop, and no amount of chemistry changes it. On the off weeks I am free almost every evening and most of the weekend.

That rhythm is the whole shape of my life and it has been for six years. I mention it first because it is the thing most likely to make you close the tab, and I would rather you did that now than in three weeks.

Forty one, submissive, Jersey side, forty minutes into Manhattan if I leave before the traffic. Eight years in, one long dynamic that ended when she moved for work, and a couple of quiet years since.

What I am after is something ongoing rather than occasional. Service, structure, tasks I can do on the weeks we are not seeing each other. I am good at being useful and I am at my worst when there is nothing to do. Give me a standing list and a deadline and I will be the most reliable person you know.

I am not looking for anything that leaves marks I would have to explain. I am not looking to meet anyone's family or to have anyone meet mine. And I am not looking for a dominant who wants me available on demand, because I cannot be, and pretending otherwise would waste months of both our time before anyone admitted it.

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