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Dominants Brooklyn, New York

One activity, done properly, and no interest at all in the rest

Posted as only_one_thing

Looking for
someone who wants protocol and nothing but protocol
Experience
Eight years, narrow and deep rather than broad.
Around
Brooklyn, New York

I do one thing. I do it well. I have no curiosity at all about the rest of the menu and I have stopped apologising for that.

What I care about is protocol. Position, address, how you enter a room, what you do with your hands, how long you can hold a standard when nobody is watching, and how honestly you report it when you cannot. That is the whole interest. There is nothing behind it.

Thirty seven, Brooklyn, dominant, eight years, all of it narrow. People find this either extremely appealing or completely baffling, and both groups write to me. If you are in the second group and thinking that you could get me interested in something else eventually, you cannot, and I am not being coy about it.

I run this quite formally and I am specific about standards. I am also not cruel about failure, because failing at something difficult while trying honestly is the interesting part, and punishing it out of existence would be stupid.

Not looking for a scene. Not looking for anything at a weekend event. Not looking to expand the remit in month six. Not looking for someone who wants to be broken down, because that is not what any of this is, and if that phrase appears in your post we are not going to get along.

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