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Submissives Brooklyn, New York

Line cook, submissive, my Tuesday is your Saturday

Posted as sixth_floor_walkup

Looking for
someone whose schedule is as strange as mine
Experience
Three years, two short dynamics, both ended over scheduling.
Around
Brooklyn, New York

I get out of work at one in the morning most nights and I am wide awake until four. That single fact has ended more of these than anything about kink ever has, so I am putting it first this time instead of burying it in paragraph three.

Twenty seven, submissive, kitchen work, Brooklyn, sixth floor walkup with a roommate who is lovely and home constantly. That last part matters more than people expect. What I want is a dominant who is not going to treat my hours as a personality flaw to be fixed. I have had two dynamics end because the other person kept proposing Friday at eight and getting annoyed when the answer was no again. I am not being difficult. I am at work.

The upside is that I have Monday and Tuesday completely free while the rest of the city is at a desk. If you also work strange hours, or you are retired, or you simply like an empty city on a Monday afternoon, we already have more overlap than most people on this board.

I want structure more than I want anything else. Rules I check in with. Someone who notices when I skip meals. Someone who will take the decision out of my hands on the days when I have already made two hundred of them for other people.

Not looking for anyone who wants to start with a list of activities. Not looking for someone across the river who will resent the trip in six weeks. Not looking to be rescued.

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