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Submissives Manhattan, New York

Submissive man, forty four, two questions and a short post

Posted as two_questions

Looking for
a dominant woman for something long, slow and real
Experience
Twelve years, two long dynamics, currently unattached.
Around
Manhattan, New York

Two questions I will ask early, so you may as well know them now. What does a normal week look like when a dynamic of yours is working well. And what has gone wrong for you before, and what did you change afterwards. The answers tell me more in five minutes than a month of good intentions will.

Forty four, Manhattan, submissive, twelve years in. Two long dynamics, of four years and five, both ended without damage, and I am still on good terms with one of them. I am unattached, I live alone, I can host, and I have a job that stays inside its hours.

I want something long. Not a scene, not a weekend, not an experiment. A dynamic that becomes part of an ordinary week and then stays there for years. I would rather build slowly with the right person than begin quickly with somebody I have had to talk myself into. If that sounds slow, it is, and I stopped apologising for it around year seven.

I am not going to write a list of activities here. Those get decided by two people who already trust each other, and nobody reading this is there yet, including me.

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