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Switches the Bronx, New York

Switch is not a waiting room, and I am tired of explaining it

Posted as switch_not_undecided

Looking for
someone who does not treat half of me as a phase
Experience
Eight years, both directions, entirely deliberately.
Around
the Bronx, New York

In eight years I have been told I will settle on one eventually by roughly forty people, several of whom had been doing this for less time than I had. I have stopped arguing. I now simply stop replying, which is ruder and considerably faster.

Thirty, the Bronx, switch, eight years, both directions on purpose and not out of indecision. Here is the part people miss. Leading and following are not two halves of one appetite for me. They are two entirely separate things I want, in the way that somebody might want to run and also want to read. Nobody asks a runner when they intend to pick.

What I want is a partner who wants both from me and offers both. Or, honestly, two separate arrangements with two people who each want one side, which I have done successfully and which some people find scandalous and I find efficient.

I am in the Bronx, I will come south for somebody worth it, I work regular hours and I am reliable to the point of dullness.

Not looking for anyone who says they are open to me leading and means that they will allow it. Not looking to be somebody's evidence that switches are fickle. Not looking for a long correspondence: say what you want, tell me what you are actually like, and we will find out quickly.

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