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Couples Jersey side, New York

Two dominant men, one sofa, and a very specific vacancy

Posted as two_doms_one_sofa

Looking for
a service submissive who wants two people to answer to
Experience
Together six years, both of us experienced separately before that.
Around
Jersey side, New York

We are both dominant. That is not a problem between us, and working out how took about a year, which is why we are so specific about what we are looking for now.

Thirty five and forty, together six years, Jersey side with an easy trip into the city. What we would like is one submissive, for a service arrangement, who genuinely wants two people to answer to. That is a stranger request than it sounds. Two dominants is not twice as much of anything. It means twice as many standards to hold, two different tempers to read, and the very real possibility of feeling outnumbered during a disagreement.

We have thought about that last part seriously. Our answer is that anything concerning all three of us gets discussed with all three present, and that a complaint about one of us never has to be routed through the other.

The arrangement we want is regular rather than constant. Two evenings most weeks, some weekends, and standing duties in between.

Not looking for a live in situation. Not looking for anyone who wants to play us off against each other, which we have seen once and ended immediately. Not looking for somebody hoping this becomes a romantic triad, because we are quite clear that it is not, and saying so now is kinder than saying it in month four.

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