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Dominants the inner suburbs, Paris

Forty, out past the boulevard, and not coming to you every time

Posted as not_moving_north

Looking for
somebody who will make the journey in this direction occasionally
Experience
Seventeen years leading, two long dynamics, both out this way.
Around
the inner suburbs, Paris

Forty minutes and two changes is presented to me, by people who live inside the boulevard, as though it were nothing, and it is presented in one direction only. In five years not one person has proposed coming out here first. It has become a small test that almost everybody fails without knowing they are taking it.

Forty, Paris, dominant, seventeen years. Out here there is a real circle, much smaller than the one inside the city and considerably more stable, and most of us have known each other for a decade. That has advantages and one obvious disadvantage, which is why I am on a board rather than relying on the people I already know.

What I want is a long dynamic with a submissive who lives out this way or within half an hour of it. I should say plainly what is actually on offer, because in this city it is the whole argument: I have a house, with a room in it that is nobody else's, and walls that do not pass sound. Almost nobody I have met in seventeen years of this has had that.

I run things domestically. Standing rules, service, a review every few months, correction that is spoken rather than applied. I am not theatrical, I do not attend events, and I have no interest in being known. I write carefully and slowly and I expect the same. Nothing is going to be arranged in the first week.

If you live in the middle of town and are genuinely willing to come out, say so plainly and I will take it seriously, and I will meet you halfway on the arrangements. What I will not do is spend another spring being told that everything happens in the centre.

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