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Dominants the 11th, Paris

Paris, and I am not a fortnight in somebody's year abroad

Posted as not_your_holiday

Looking for
somebody who lives here, or genuinely intends to
Experience
Nineteen years leading, three dynamics, all of them here.
Around
the 11th, Paris

Every June my messages triple and every September they stop. I have worked out the pattern well enough to predict the week it starts. People arrive in this city, they are relaxed and interested and full of plans, and then they go back to their real lives and I am part of the trip they took.

Forty seven, Paris, dominant, nineteen years. I was born here, I will die here, and the city is not a backdrop.

What I want is a long dynamic with a submissive who actually lives here: a lease, a job, a dentist. Service, structure, standing rules, a great deal of expectation and very little theatre. I am direct in a way that people who arrived last year sometimes find rude and that everybody who grew up here understands as ordinary.

I am not interested in anybody's fantasy about this place. The buildings are handsome and the rest of it is a working city with problems and a flat you cannot turn round in, and if what appeals to you is an idea of a life here rather than the actual one, we will find that out in the second message and it will be a waste of both our time.

I do not do anything at a distance. I have tried twice and I am not built for it. I would want to meet reasonably early, in daylight, and talk properly. I am not one for a long correspondence and I know that puts me at odds with half this board. If you are here in February, write to me in February. I will take you a great deal more seriously.

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