Sixty one, and I want one evening a month built over four weeks
Posted as the_long_preparation
- Looking for
- a submissive who prefers anticipation to frequency
- Experience
- Thirty two years, three long dynamics, the last of them fifteen.
- Around
- the Marais, Paris
I see a submissive once a month. That is the design, not a limitation. What happens in the four weeks between is the actual dynamic: instructions, preparation, small daily obligations, a long correspondence, and a slow accumulation of expectation that makes the evening itself something quite unlike what it would be if we met every Tuesday.
Sixty one, Paris, dominant, thirty two years. My last arrangement ran fifteen years on exactly this pattern and ended when she remarried, with my blessing, and we still write. I understand this is a minority taste. Most people want frequency and read a monthly meeting as a lack of interest. I would argue the opposite: I think about the person constantly and construct the month around them, which is considerably more attention than most weekly arrangements contain.
What it requires from the other side is patience and a genuine ability to hold something for four weeks without being reminded. Someone who can be told in the second week what will be expected in the fourth and who arrives having done it.
There is very little impact in what I do and a great deal of protocol, waiting and precision. I write at length and I expect long answers. I am not interested in a rapid exchange of short messages and I will not conduct anything by them.
I would prefer somebody over thirty five. I would prefer somebody who has done this before, though I have started two people from nothing and both of those were among the best of it.