My knees decide more about my life than I would like
Posted as four_flights_of_stairs
- Looking for
- somebody practical who will plan around a body that has limits
- Experience
- Twenty years, both directions, five of them adapting to this.
- Around
- the north zone, Rio de Janeiro
I live at the top of four flights in a building with no lift, on a street that goes uphill before you even get to the door. Five years ago none of that was a sentence I would have written. Now it is the first thing I think about every morning.
Forty eight, north zone, switch, twenty years. There is a diagnosis and it is not interesting and it is not going away, and what it means practically is that I plan routes, I do not stand for long, and some days I cancel.
None of that stops me doing any of this. It does change how. Nothing kneeling. Nothing that involves being on a hard floor. Positions get adapted and I will tell you which and how, in detail, without embarrassment, because five years of this has removed whatever embarrassment I had.
What I want is a long even switch dynamic with somebody who treats all of the above as logistics rather than tragedy. I lead a little more than I follow now, partly for obvious reasons and partly because I have got better at it.
I can host if you are willing to make the climb, and I am honest that a lot of people are not. Not looking for anybody who wants to talk about treatments. Not looking for a person who will be careful with me in a way I have not asked for. Not looking to be admired for being here.