Three attempts across this city, three failures, and I have learned
Posted as the_zone_decides
- Looking for
- anybody at all within half an hour of me
- Experience
- Eight years, both directions, three dynamics killed by geography.
- Around
- the north zone, Rio de Janeiro
Three times I have started something with somebody in a different part of this city and three times it has died in exactly the same way. Not badly. Nobody behaved poorly. It simply became a thing we did once a fortnight instead of twice a week, and then once a month, and then it was over without anybody deciding.
Thirty two, north zone, switch, eight years. I have stopped believing the version of me that says the distance will not matter, because that version has been wrong three times in a row and I have run out of ways to argue with the evidence.
So the requirement is a half hour. That is it. Everything else about me is flexible and I am genuinely easy to get on with.
What I want is an even switch dynamic with one person, running for years. I lead slightly more than I follow and I am equally happy either way. I like protocol, I like a routine, and I have very little interest in anything heavy.
I live with my mother, which means I cannot host, and I have accepted that this makes me a slightly awkward proposition even inside my half hour. Not looking for anybody who wants to convince me the city is smaller than it is. Not looking for a person who is doing this at a distance and thinks it is fine, because it might be fine for them.