An independent field handbook · Non-explicit · Adults 18+

BDSM Dating

The practical handbook for meeting kinky partners, online and off

Signed out. You are reading, not posting. Log In Sign Up

Switches the south zone, Rio de Janeiro

I arrived for a six month contract nine years ago

Posted as came_for_six_months

Looking for
somebody local, because I am finally admitting that I live here
Experience
Twelve years, both directions, most of it in another language.
Around
the south zone, Rio de Janeiro

The contract was six months. That was nine years ago. I have a flat, a bank account, a dentist and a set of friends who make fun of my accent, and I still describe myself to people at home as being here temporarily.

Thirty five, south zone, switch, twelve years in this, though the first three were somewhere much colder and considerably more organised about it.

What I have finally accepted is that everybody I have been involved with here has been another foreigner, which happened by accident at first and then by habit. It is easier. Nobody has to explain anything and everybody assumes a leaving date. It has also meant that after nine years I have never had anything here that lasted more than a year.

So I would like to meet somebody who is from here and staying here. I speak the language properly now. I will get things wrong socially and I would rather be told than have people be polite about it. What I want is a long, even switch dynamic. I lead about half the time. Protocol and structure interest me a great deal, pain very little. I live alone near the water and I can host.

Not looking for anybody who wants to practise their English on me. Not looking for a person who is here for a season, because that is the pattern I am trying to break. Not looking to be anybody's foreign experience.

Reply to this post Replies go through your account, not this page. Nothing you send is published here.

Before you answer this

The handbook covers the part that comes next. These three are the ones that matter to a post like this one.

Also in Rio de Janeiro

All posts in Rio de Janeiro →

You have read one. Now write one.

Write a post like this where the people reading it are near you, and answer the ones that are already there.

Write your post Already a member? Log in