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Couples the centre, Rio de Janeiro

Forty square metres, thin walls, and neighbours on all four sides

Posted as the_flat_is_small

Looking for
somebody with space, or a shared solution to a shared problem
Experience
Together six years, this between them for three, nothing outside it.
Around
the centre, Rio de Janeiro

We can hear our neighbour's television and she can certainly hear us. The flat is one room and a kitchen and the walls were put up in a hurry seventy years ago. Everything we have ever done in this has been quiet by necessity, and we have got surprisingly good at that, and it does have limits.

Twenty nine and thirty two, near the centre, together six years, with this between us for three. So we are posting about a practical problem more than anything else. We cannot host in any real sense, and we understand that means anybody we meet carries the whole burden of that, and we do not take it lightly.

She leads. He does not. We are looking for one submissive woman for something regular, unhurried, and long, who would answer to her, with him present rather than in charge.

We are also entirely happy for the first few months to be conversation and public meetings while we all work out whether this is even possible, because we would rather be honest than promise a setting we do not have.

If you are in the same position, write anyway. Two couples with no space between them may still be better than nobody. Not looking for anybody who suggests we could simply be quiet, because we already are. Not looking for a person who needs a lot of room to do what they want. Not looking to rush.

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