If your first question is which one I really am, do not write
Posted as tired_of_the_word
- Looking for
- another switch, or a person who has met one before
- Experience
- Fourteen years, both directions, roughly evenly split throughout.
- Around
- Barra, Rio de Janeiro
Fourteen years and I still get the same message. Which one are you really. Which one do you prefer. Which one would you be with me. As though the word were a stage I am passing through on the way to a proper answer.
Thirty seven, Barra, switch, and the honest answer is both, in roughly equal measure, and it has been both since I was twenty three and it is not going to resolve.
What has actually worked, twice, was another switch. What has also worked, once, was a very secure dominant who simply told me to say on the day and then never made it complicated. What has never worked is somebody who wanted access to one half of me and treated the other as a hobby they were tolerating.
I am blunt, as you can probably tell, and I am much better company in person than this post suggests. I have simply run out of ways to be gracious about this particular question. What I want is a long thing with somebody who has done it before. Protocol both ways. Nothing heavy. A great deal of talking afterwards, which is the part I like best and which nobody puts in their advertisement.
I live alone in Barra, I can host, and I have a car. Not looking for anybody working out whether they switch. Not looking for a person who will negotiate which half they get. Not looking to educate anybody about the word again.