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Switches the north zone, Rio de Janeiro

I am much better in person than any message I have ever sent

Posted as write_badly_mean_well

Looking for
somebody willing to meet early rather than judge me by my typing
Experience
Four years, both directions, two short things that ended by text.
Around
the north zone, Rio de Janeiro

I am not good at this part. My messages are short and they come out flat, and I have been told twice that I seemed uninterested when I was in fact rewriting the same three lines for half an hour.

Thirty one, north zone, switch, four years. In person I am the opposite. I talk a lot, I laugh at everything, and people generally decide within ten minutes that I am fine. Both of the things I have had started because somebody met me anyway despite a first message that must have read like a form.

So what I am asking for is a coffee early. Not because I want to rush anything, but because the written stage is the stage I am worst at and every extra week of it makes me look worse than I am.

What I want is something long and even. Both directions, no strong preference, protocol on both sides and nothing heavy. I would like it to be with somebody nearby, because I am in the north zone and I am realistic. I live with my brother, so hosting is difficult, and I am free most evenings and Sundays.

Not looking for anybody who wants weeks of messages first, because I will lose them by attrition. Not looking for a person who will read the short replies as coolness. Not looking to be corrected about how I write, which somebody did, at length.

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