We do this apart from each other, under rules we wrote together
Posted as separately_with_rules
- Looking for
- somebody comfortable with one half of a couple, openly and with the other knowing
- Experience
- Married twenty one years, doing it this way for the last five.
- Around
- Niterói side, Rio de Janeiro
We are posting as a couple and what we are looking for is not a couple arrangement, which we know is confusing, so here is the explanation first.
Five years ago we agreed that this part of our lives would happen separately. She has her arrangements, I have mine, we each know who the other is seeing, and we do not do any of it together. That was not a compromise, it was what both of us actually wanted, and it took a year of arguing to get there.
Fifty and fifty three, Niterói side, married twenty one years. She is dominant. I am submissive. Neither of those things works with the other person, which is the whole reason we ended up here. The rules exist because they had to. Nothing at our house. Everybody knows the situation from the start. No secrets between us about who or when. Any one of us can stop anything at any point without a justification.
So: she is looking for a submissive man, and I am looking for a dominant woman, and you would be meeting one of us with the other's full knowledge and no involvement. We are on the wrong side of the water and both of us drive.
Not looking for anybody who wants to be kept secret from a spouse, since that is the thing we specifically do not do. Not looking for a person who finds the arrangement suspicious. Not looking for anyone who wants to meet us both.