I am fat, I am saying so here, and not later in person
Posted as the_body_i_have
- Looking for
- somebody who is either interested or not, and says which
- Experience
- Fifteen years, four dynamics, all with people who had no problem.
- Around
- the south zone, Rio de Janeiro
In a city where a great deal of life happens with very few clothes on, this is not a small thing to write, and I have written and deleted it about six times.
Forty four, south zone, submissive, fifteen years. I am fat. I have been fat for most of my adult life, I am healthy, I am not on a project to change it, and I am not asking anybody to have a conversation with me about it.
The reason it is in the post is the moment I have now had too many times, where somebody is warm and enthusiastic for two weeks and then goes quiet after a meeting. That is allowed. Nobody owes me an attraction. What I want is for it to happen at the start, in a message, rather than after I have rearranged a week and crossed the city.
So: if you are interested, say so plainly. If you are not, that is completely fine and you can simply not reply. What I want is a long dynamic with a lot of structure. Service, protocol, rules across the week. Four of those over fifteen years and every one with somebody for whom this was a non subject, which is the standard.
Not looking for anybody who wants to tell me they find it attractive as though it were a kindness. Not looking for a person who thinks it is something we will work on together. Not looking for anything that involves weighing or measuring anybody, ever.