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Couples the south zone, Rio de Janeiro

From November we are two ordinary people who go swimming

Posted as we_only_do_winter

Looking for
a submissive who can accept an arrangement that pauses every summer
Experience
Together seventeen years, seasonal for the last eight of them.
Around
the south zone, Rio de Janeiro

Every year, at some point in November, we stop. Everything goes on hold, the rules are lifted, and from then until March we are simply a married couple who go swimming and complain about the heat. Then it cools and we start again.

Forty six and forty eight, south zone, together seventeen years. We fell into this by accident about eight years ago and then decided to make it deliberate, because the summers we tried to push through were miserable and the ones we let go were fine.

We are looking for one submissive for a long arrangement on exactly that basis. Structure and standing rules from about April to October, a proper pause in between with contact but no requirements, and a date agreed in advance for when it restarts.

He leads. She does not. We had an arrangement of four years that ran this way and the person involved told us the pause was the reason it lasted, because nothing ever got stale enough to resent. We are in the south zone, we can host, and we are both free most evenings.

Not looking for anybody who needs continuity through the whole year, which is entirely reasonable and simply not us. Not looking for a person who will spend the summer asking whether it is really off. Not looking to negotiate the dates, which we set together in September.

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