Fifty five, and I am looking for something that lasts a decade
Posted as building_something_slow
- Looking for
- a submissive who wants a household rather than an arrangement
- Experience
- Twenty six years, two households, one of them thirteen years.
- Around
- the far south zone, São Paulo
What I am describing takes years to build and I am going to say so plainly, because half the people who read this post will stop at the second paragraph and that is the correct outcome.
Fifty five, São Paulo, dominant, twenty six years. Two household arrangements, the longer of which ran thirteen years and ended when she moved abroad for work with my agreement and our friendship intact.
By household I do not mean anything ceremonial. I mean two people whose lives are actually joined, where the structure covers the ordinary business of a shared week: how the place runs, who does what, what standards are held, how money is kept separate and how decisions get made. It takes about three years to become real and about five to become comfortable, and I have twice watched it happen and there is nothing else like it.
That is not achievable with somebody who wants to see how it goes. It requires two people who have decided.
So the honest advertisement is this: I am looking for one person, probably over forty, probably with experience, who wants the same and is prepared to spend the first year simply getting to know me before anything is agreed.
Very little impact in what I do. A great deal of expectation, service and attention.
I live alone in a house that is far too large, I work three days a week, and I am not in any hurry at all, having waited six years already.