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Dominants the south zone, São Paulo

São Paulo, and everything here seems to happen in groups of nine

Posted as one_person_not_a_group

Looking for
one submissive, privately, away from everybody else
Experience
Fourteen years leading, two long dynamics, both very private.
Around
the south zone, São Paulo

Everything social in this city arrives as a crowd. You agree to meet one person and six others appear, and it is warm and generous and I have genuinely come to love it about living here, and it is completely useless for what I am trying to do.

Forty one, São Paulo, dominant, fourteen years. Both of my long dynamics were conducted almost entirely away from anybody else, and both times the difficult part was not the dynamic, it was explaining to a wide circle of friendly people why I was not bringing this person to everything.

What I want is one submissive, seen regularly, in private, for a long time. Structure, standing rules, service, correction that is spoken. Nothing performed and nothing attended.

I am not antisocial. I have a great many friends and I see them constantly. I simply do not want this part of my life to be one more thing that happens in a room with nine people in it and an ongoing negotiation about where we are all going next.

I live alone in the south zone, I can host, and my work is flexible enough that I can be free in the day.

I would like to know somebody properly first, which in this city means a lot of hours in cafés, and I am content with that.

Not looking for anybody who wants to be introduced to a wider circle, because I do not have one in this. Not looking for anybody who needs an audience. And not looking to be somebody's route into a scene, since I have deliberately stayed out of it for fourteen years.

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