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Dominants the east zone, São Paulo

I have met everybody in my zone, so I am looking across the city

Posted as two_hours_in_traffic

Looking for
a submissive on the far side who will treat the crossing as normal
Experience
Nineteen years leading, three dynamics, two across the city.
Around
the east zone, São Paulo

The circle out my way is perhaps eighty people and after nineteen years I know most of it, have led two people in it, and am friends with three others who have. That is not a scandal, it is arithmetic, and it is why I am writing this.

Forty seven, São Paulo, dominant. The far side of this city is two hours in traffic on a weekday and forty minutes on a Sunday morning, and I have done both more times than I can count. Two of my three dynamics were conducted across that gap and both worked, and I have become quite good at the shape of it.

What that shape is: a written structure that runs daily, a call at a fixed hour, and then a weekend once or twice a month where everything planned across the fortnight actually happens. Nothing is improvised. Nothing is wasted on deciding what to do.

I am looking for a submissive anywhere in this city, on any side of it, including my own if there is anybody I have somehow not met.

We would each pay our own way, always, and I would rather that were understood now than negotiated later.

I run things domestically. Service, standing rules, correction that is spoken, very little impact.

I would want to know somebody for a while first, and I am content for that to happen entirely in writing, which is the one advantage of the arrangement I am describing.

Not looking for anybody who treats the distance as a temporary problem that one of us will solve by moving across town. Neither of us is moving.

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